When I was growing up in
Wisconsin, I did occasionally encounter kids who fit the description of
“punks,” “thugs” and “bullies,” even in your typical white suburban
neighborhoods. Once, when I was about four-years-old, a gang of older “kids”
thought it would be “fun” to hold me to the ground and stuff grass in my mouth.
That they were white and I was “ethnic” likely had something to do with the
“fun” they were having at my expense. Needless-to-say, incidents like this,
though rare, did nothing to improve my belief in my fellow human, at least in
the generality; as the great German man
of letters, Goethe, so astutely wrote of the German people: “So estimable in
the individuality, yet so wretched in the generality”—sentiments that were to
be proven all too real during Nazi rule.
Unfortunately, things seem to
have only become worse amongst the last few generations. Lack of acceptance of
personal responsibility for actions, or the results of actions, are frequent,
but more often the problem is the poor choice in “role models.” When I was a
kid, being a “gangsta” was only “cool” to delinquents and criminals; today, a
great many of today’s youth take their cues from “artists” with a thug mentality,
spewing out so-called “music” often vulgar and even violent. “Respect” is what
they expect, even if their own behavior is rude and contemptuous.
I prefer not to engage in
generalities, but as they say, bad behavior has a much longer shelf life in the
memory than good. Of course, if someone of celebrity status or sports star is
guilty of bad behavior in the past, it probably isn’t a good idea to dredge it
up for public consumption, because it might have the effect of losing the “benefit
of the doubt” in the public’s mind if something does occur that makes it
“applicable.”
For example, Seattle Seahawks’
quarterback Russell Wilson has this squeaky clean persona with the public, in
Seattle and in the sports media generally. He is one of the shortest quarterbacks
in the NFL, so there is this “natural” perception that he is “vulnerable” to
the big bad guys in the league. This perception has just been called into
question. It seems that newly retired Yankees star Derek Jeter has started a
website in which athletes can post “exclusive” information about themselves
unfiltered, instead of through the news media. One of the first posts is from
Wilson, who decided that it would make a “splash” if he told some previously
unknown truth about himself—although not necessarily “unknown” to his victims,
who have otherwise kept their silence.
Wilson claims that as a youth he
was a “bully,” beating up other kids, shoving their faces into the ground, all
for the “fun” of it, I suppose. Actually, he admits he wasn’t a very “nice”
kid, contrary to his current image. I suppose we all have some dirty laundry to
hide under the bed; I once read that actress Michelle Pfeiffer admitted to have
been a “bully” when she was a kid. Of course, we might give Wilson a “pass” on
this, since he is simply being “honest” and is showing us that one can
eventually “grow up” to be a responsible adult.
Still, it seems a bit odd to
write about this as if it was something we need to know in order to "talk about" a serious topic--domestic violence--in a way that continues to evade the "unfiltered" truth about it. What are the “kids” who
learn this supposed to think? It's not "OK" to beat-up women, but when you are kids (or with other males), it's just a "growing up" phase? Some "kids" never grow-up. That you can be a “punk” and a “thug” and still
be star athlete and people “respect” you? Isn’t it bad enough that the NBA is
full of players who act like street punks both on and off the court? Is this
how athletes “connect” with the youth of today? Or is this one “lost”
generation passing on its poor habits onto the next—something that money and
success has not changed?
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