The mainstream media never misses
an opportunity to characterize women as “victims” or “superior” to men, usually
based on opinion rather than evidentiary foundation and contrary to empirical support.
Oh well. Usually this has more to do with personal egotism and an effort to
downsize accomplishments not their own. Newsweek recently had a cover story demonstrating
this propensity entitled “The Lady Vanishes,” the premise of which is that
because of the one-child policy in China, and the assumed preference for male
children over females, there is a slightly
lower number of female births, meaning that the “preference” is only just that.
In any case, there is a slight surplus of marriage-age men that, according to the
story, actually gives women power over men in China. The alleged Chinese “lady”
has reverted back to the stereotypical “Dragon Lady,” going from “unwanted” to
suddenly “in charge.” Chinese women won’t marry a man who doesn’t own a house
or have a large bank account, and the divorce rate is increasing, although still
rather considerably lower than in the West.
I mean, like, so what else is
new? Frankly, societal change today often has less to do with advancing morality
and ethics than being in direct opposition to them, because they are viewed as
maintaining the “patriarchy” rather than directing personal responsibility. “Temporary”
marriage arrangements (usually in the minds of women) as an economic
consideration or based on lust rather than love, deliberate single-parenthood
and certain kinds of “permanent” domestic arrangements are examples of
this. What is “ironic” is that it is
“educated” women who are too self-obsessed or have “special needs” who are
driving this, in the belief that they
are “victims” or superior beings being “held down” by men—or at least those are
messages we are continually being bombarded with by the media.
But what does it really say about
gender relations? That contrary to popular myth, they are really more
self-interested than “caring” about others, even their own children, often used
by vindictive women as weapons against their fathers in divorce cases? That
they feel they have responsibility when
it comes to compromise or even giving any credence to their partner’s take on
the state of a relationship, refusing to take any responsibility for their own
behavior, or feel that only their “needs” matter? This may in reality describe gender relations,
but the refusal to recognize it indicates the power of gender myths. Or is it
just a lot of hot hair and sob-sister bovine scatology, because deep inside
they know just how dependent they are on
males for the maintenance of the comforts of civilization they take for
granted? One “educated” female once told me that men are only good for “killing
bugs and fixing cars.” At least she admitted in a backhanded way that males
were “needed” for something.
Why would Chinese women be any different?
Some may say to themselves “I am going to pick the ‘perfect’ man for me.” But
what is the “perfect” male for such self-interested women? Does such a person
even exist? And why would a man want a woman who requires him to kowtow to her
every “need”—which often she cannot even articulate—or illogical whim. Of course, Newsweek may be “inventing” a story, basing its conclusion on the
commentary of an isolated cadre of “career” women, and not the opinion of the
general population. But it doesn’t matter, since the propaganda takes no matter
of true it is in the generality or not.
Attitudes about relationship go both ways, gender politics aside. CNN recently reported on the growing apathy of some Japanese men in regard to women. “A government survey released this week suggested that nearly 40 percent of Japanese in their twenties and thirties are not in a relationship don't think they need a romantic partner, with many calling relationships ‘bothersome.’ Another survey from 2010 found that one in four Japanese men in their thirties who've never been married are virgins. The figures were only slightly less for women.” One of these men said "When you see a woman and find her attractive, you might ask her out, hold her hand, kiss and that's how it goes. But in my case, it did not happen for me. I thought it might happen naturally, but it never did."
Attitudes about relationship go both ways, gender politics aside. CNN recently reported on the growing apathy of some Japanese men in regard to women. “A government survey released this week suggested that nearly 40 percent of Japanese in their twenties and thirties are not in a relationship don't think they need a romantic partner, with many calling relationships ‘bothersome.’ Another survey from 2010 found that one in four Japanese men in their thirties who've never been married are virgins. The figures were only slightly less for women.” One of these men said "When you see a woman and find her attractive, you might ask her out, hold her hand, kiss and that's how it goes. But in my case, it did not happen for me. I thought it might happen naturally, but it never did."
For men confronted with the abuses
of women whose “needs” can never be met or satisfied, Bob Dylan’s “It Ain’t Me
Babe” has the right message:
You say you're looking for someone
Who promises never to part
Someone to close his eyes to you
Someone to close his heart
Someone who will die for you and more
But it ain't me babe
No, no, no it ain't me babe
It ain't me you're looking for
You say you're looking for someone
Who promises never to part
Someone to close his eyes to you
Someone to close his heart
Someone who will die for you and more
But it ain't me babe
No, no, no it ain't me babe
It ain't me you're looking for
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